Thursday, November 22, 2012

2 months of pure bliss.


2 months ago on this date, I married your Abah. In those two months I have learnt more about him than I have before, we have traveled to many countries, experienced many emotions, attended many other weddings and shared laughter and tears which I will not trade for anything. 

Here's to 2000 more months together, Inshallah.

Monday, November 19, 2012

Sexual Relations in Islam

I took this from a website quite some time ago, tak ingat website mana... lama saved as draft. If ada sesiapa yg nak in BM, I can try and translate it Inshallah. May this be beneficial to all.


The purpose of Nikah is to become the mutual source of peace, comfort plus enjoyment for one another. The relation between husband and wife is just like a garment, which covers and protects the body. Sex-related aspect of the marriage is the extension of this.

The husbands are asked to become considerate, gentle and loving with his wife or wives, to try to accomplish their needs. A wife is supposed to reserve herself entirely for her husband, plus make efforts to become attractive, along with making herself available to her husband whenever he need her in bed. This last obligation even applies to her husband.

In Islam, every type of relation that leads to sex or bed starts after marriage and is reserved only for the married couple. Every wife and husband is also responsible to honor the solitude of the sexual relations they have as well as should not talk about their bedroom details to any other person or friends.

The rules of husband and wife’s sexual relations in Islam are several and very simple. These are explained below:
  1. Lovemaking relations are for any pleasure of both husband and wife as well as for the procreation associated with children. Sexual intercourse isn’t limited to vaginal sexual penetration however, includes other sorts of sexual caressing for example fondling and kissing of numerous kinds.

  2. Nothing at all should be done which is unpleasant and unhealthy for either person. Everyone has the duty or responsible to be sexually accessible to the other however, neither gets the right to dislike and injure each other.

  3. With some exceptions, any couple could engage in any specific activities, which they enjoy in any manner plus in any position. Almighty Allah rewards these kinds of activities as definitely as he or she punishes sinful activities. Holy Qur’an says,

    “Females are your fields. Proceed then in to your fields like you please.”(2:223)

  4. It’s forbidden to get vaginal intercourse whilst a female is menstruating. In accordance to the Sunnah from the Prophet s.a.w., a person and the menstruating wife could however provide one another pleasure as long as this woman vaginal is avoided. Holy Quran is very clear on this issue:

    “They inquire you concerning menstruation. Point out: that is the Adha (a harmful issue for a husband to experience a sexual activity with his wife whilst she’s having her menses), subsequently keep away from females during menses plus go not on to them until they’ve purified (from menses and also have taken the bath). And once they have purified on their own, after that go in on to them like Allah has appointed for you (proceed in on to them in any kind of manner so long as it’s in their vagina)”. (Surah Al-Baqarah in 2:222)

  5. You can find hadiths which forbid anal intercourse. Additionally scholars commonly agreed that it’s not permissible. Nevertheless, in his tafsir (comments) Tabaari (third millennium A. H.) whilst forbidding sodomy, states that earlier experts had been divided about the question.

    It was reported from Khuzaymah ibn Thaabit (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allah is not too shy to tell you the truth: do not have intercourse with your wives in the anus.” (Narrated by Imaam Ahmad, 5/213; a hasan hadeeth).

    Ibn ‘Abbaas said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah will not look at a man who has intercourse with his wife in her anus.” (Narrated by Ibn Abi Shaybah, 3/529; narrated and classed as saheeh by al-Tirmidhi, 1165).

  6. Oral sex is permissible between husband and wife as long as neither swallow semen or vaginal fluid. Also, this should be done with the mutual permission of both spouses. Holy Qur’an and Sunnah are usually silent regarding the various sorts that lovemaking relations might take. Most experts consider that it’s up to the wife and husband in love as well as mutual respect to make the decision how physically communicate their sex-related needs and desires.

  7. What goes on inside bedroom, is a personal matter and shouldn’t be discussed or even revealed to another person until there is any necessity, for instance health or protection.

    Abu Hurairah narrates said that the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) mentioned this regarding people who reveal along with discuss openly their own lovemaking practices: “Do you realize what those people who make this happen are like? Those people who make this happen are similar to a man and woman devil who meet one another on the road plus satisfy their desire whilst the people look them."

  8. In Islam, once any husband has had sex activity with his wife within the legal manner, and also after that wishes to come back another time, it’s much better that he first does another ablution (wudu). Which means: it is better in case he does not commence sexual intercourse within the unclean physical condition.

    In the words from the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh):
    “This method is better, purer and cleaner”. (Reported through Abu Dawud)

  9. It’s permissible for a female to view all of the husband as well as for a male to view all of the wife, without necessity to go in to details. Because Allah Ta’ala says (interpretation from the meaning):

    “And people who guard their sexual abstention (such as private parts by illegal sexual performs) except from their own wives and (the captives plus slaves) which their right hands have for then they’re free from blame however whoever looks for beyond that, after that those people are the transgressors”. (Surah al-Mu’minoon 23).

Friday, November 16, 2012

Review: Reception Dress

To me, my reception dress was as simple as it can get.. I didn't want something that was too dressy yet I wanted something elegant and timeless. And I was hoping that I can wear it again someday (dengan harapan tidak gemuk lepas ni haha) so it shouldn't be something too heavy or too colorful.

We bought the material at Jakel back in April. One thing we should have done though, was get a design first before buying the material. Guess we kinda worked backwards? The fabric that we bought was Italian Crepe, and I bought about 0.3 meters of french lace.



I sent the material for design and tailoring quite lambat jugak... I think about 5 weeks before the wedding. I was so glad to just be able to find a tailor that I liked, and also who would make my dress on such short notice. 

The designer was kak Shifa, she's very patient and nice. She sketched out the dress for me according to my specifications and my liking and recommended certain things which she thought was practical for me to do/not do. Then masa pergi balik untuk fitting, she made sure everything fit well and did a re-measurement.

My dress looks like one piece kan? It's actually a two-piece outfit. :) Kain lebih, dijadikan veil dan shawl. The french lace tu wasn't enough for the whole front part of the veil so they did a bit of beading, which turned out very simple and sweet.




I have to say, the dress is made with very good workmanship. The patching is good and the beading is looks delicate yet is actually done pretty well. Harga pulak, really depends on the design and the material needed for the particular design. Drop by MixModa for a consultation.


MixModa Boutique Shah Alam
Facebook: MixModa Boutique
Telephone: 03-55116200
Address: 18, Jalan Plumbum P7/P, Section 7, 40100 Shah Alam, Selangor 
(Same row as restoran Wong Solo)

Saturday, November 10, 2012

Honeymoon Part I - Melbourne

Hello and Salaam! I'm feeling less depressed today about not being pregnant (dramatic tak? mengada gila) so let's talk about my honeymoon! :D

We went to a few places for our honeymoon. Macam mini world tour pulak rasanya.. haha. The route was something like KL - Melbourne - KL - London - Manchester - London - Barcelona - London omg nak type pun penat. 

First leg of the honeymoon, we went to Melbourne to visit my family. We will be migrating there Inshallah by early next year, so this time around I brought your Abah to meet my family there (he's never met them before) and to just get a feel of the place, coz he's never been to Australia.


I think he fell in love with the place, Alhamdulillah. I know he was nervous about fitting in with the family and about the environment there but I'm so thankful that he loves the family and he loves the place, and he can't wait to move there too. :)

The first few days we spent in Fawkner with my auntie and cousins, and it's easier to get to the city by train. We love Melbourne city! We went everywhere by train/tram, it was so convenient.





We also went to Gumbaya Park, where you get to see and hang out with the animals. Cantik sangat tempat tu!





 BUT the main reason we went to Melbourne.. is to see this little cutie! My cousin's baby Safiyya. :D

 

My other cousin Fairuz also had twin babies!! Takde gambar diorang yg elok pulak... but Fairuz ni, sangat creative. As our wedding present, she and her sister put together macam an "Amazing Race" thing for us.. and she called it the "The Amazing Date"! We had to go around Melbourne city, figuring out the clues in the envelopes and solving the puzzles... it was so fun! 

One of the envelopes containing a clue

The first part of the date was a chocolate tour, best gilerrrr! The tour guide brought us around the nearby chocolatiers like Haigh's, Lindt, Koko Black and Chocolait for chocolate tasting. We tasted chocolates, macarons, ice cream.. ahhh heaven sangat!


Another highlight of the Amazing Date was a trip up the Eureka Skydeck. It's the tallest residential tower in the world and is 88 floors high. Sapa yang gayat, tak perlu datang ye. The lift nak naik from ground floor to the 88th floor pun took 38 seconds je!! Laju gila pls.


On the Eureka Skydeck, you can see a 360 degree view of Melbourne. It's so cantik, Mashallah. We went there just before sunset, so we saw the view before, during and after sunset. It was very romantic. :) 


There was this other attraction on the skydeck, it's called The Edge. They put you into this glass box,  all the walls are glass, even the floor is glass... pastu at first the glass was tinted. So tak nampak apa2 outside. After the box tu dah projected out of the building, ada bunyi macam kaca pecah and BAM! the whole box becomes transparent and you can see the ground below! Gayat weyhhhh...





Besides all the above we just walked around the city, enjoying the weather, shopping sikit2... mostly just spending time with my family. So that was all for the first leg of our honeymoon, next stop - Manchester! :)

Friday, November 9, 2012

Bunting Pelamin

Jangan terpedaya dengan tajuk post ini... kerana, saya tidak bunting pelamin, even though I really, really wanted to be.. :(

I wanted to update about my honeymoon. I had a lovely honeymoon Alhamdulillah, we had such a great time. But I'll save that update for a time when I feel happier about myself, because right now I want to blog about how I feel.

I think it's no secret how badly I want babies. Tengok nama blog ni je pun dah tau.. hamboii minah ni, belum kahwin dah ada blog cerita kat anak dia macam mana dia jumpa bapak anak tu. Yes that's me. Always over-planning, always impatient with the things that I want.

I'm sure most newlyweds can't wait to welcome a child into their lives. That's one of the main reasons people get married anyway, to have children. So the both of us tak putus2 doa untuk baby... 

...then my period came. Sentap. Menangis, sedih sangat2. Wondered what I did wrong. I thought kalau the timing was right, and we planned it... Inshallah memang dapat. Because my period setiap bulan memang regular Alhamdulillah. So memang senang plan la patutnya.

Everyone told me to relax, chill, we just got married, take your time, enjoy each other's company, etc.. ok, so I did. We went on honeymoon, and the timing was so very right again. Hoping to get a honeymoon baby, yeay! Harapan sangat tinggi, we were so hopeful sampai beli baby clothes Man Utd and Arsenal. Sampai gaduh anak nak sokong team Mak dia ke Abah dia.

...then balik from honeymoon, my period came again. Sentap again. Disappointed sangat2. Start takut pun ada. What if it's me that's infertile? What if I wait for years and not get a baby? I can't handle it, I don't know what I would do.

Pastu Faiq dah sound, he reminded me that Allah will give us the rezeki when the time is right. He knows best. Maybe He just wants Faiq and I to enjoy each other's company first and be absolutely comfortable with each other before we take on the huge responsibility of being parents. 

So I'm trying to loosen up and just not expect anything. Hoping and expecting too much leads to big disappointments. Nak ubatkan hati and just go with the flow, tingkatkan amalan and lebihkan doa. Hope to be a mother to the kid reading this blog one day, Inshallah.

Your Abah I won't give up until we get you, sayang. 

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